(Page Twenty Five) And if, so many western women are willing go through such abusive relationship, just to have a man, what if it is merely an unhappy relationship.

“God Helps Those who help themselves” Benjamin Franklin (One of the US founding fathers, first US Secretary of State)

“天助自助” (English Translation: Heaven Helps those who help themselves)

Confucius

And if, so many western women are willing go through such abusive relationship, just to have a man, what if it is merely an unhappy relationship. 

This is a reason why, 2/3 of all western middle age divorce, is proposed by women, she is so miserable in this relationship, maybe already miserable when they were just Dating, it comes a day, where she just can’t do it anymore and the guy is left shocked asking “What the F***?”

To resolve this issue, what girls can do is, get to know guys as just friends first, before deciding whether to be on Dating Term. But further problem emerged due to the west think been in a Dating Relationship, qualify as Dating regardless to whether you consent and confuse Dating to be same as marriage. In addition, the mainstream western view thinks all Cheating in relationship to be wrong. Thus, if the girl start having emotional affair with other guys, the wider western community, especially other women would accuse her of Cheating and shame her for it, which helps her abuser keeping her within this abusive relationship.

In Asia, this won't be a problem.

Take the same dating show from China mentioned above. In one episode there was a pair of boyfriend and girlfriend. The girlfriend is a Russian oversea student to China, like many westerners in Asia, she grows to think the Asian relationship views to be right and healthier and convert to our thinking. Like most western girls, she got strong desire for love and marriage, as a result, like most Asian girls that got such strong desire to find love and marriage, she would be in a Dating Relationship with many different guys, going out as just friends, but not on Dating term with all except one and due to been on Dating term with one person, she will keep it none sexual with the other guys. Her boyfriend, despite been Asian, didn't handle her hanging out with other guys very well, despite she is merely hanging out with the other guys as “just friends or acquaintances” and kept it completely none sexual, confronting the guy she is having a cup of coffee with, angrily, demanding for him to answer, why is he talking to his girlfriend. After hearing this, every person on the show, say the boyfriend’s action is completely inappropriate and unacceptable

Despite it is in Chinese and most readers here can't speak Chinese, I still want to add the video of this scene, they are the first pair of Boyfriend and Girlfriend in this video. (The first part of their relationship was normal, for the first year, it was merely an emotional affair, where they were going out as just friends, but not on Boyfriend and girlfriend term and neither party is making the mistake of thinking been in a Dating Relationship is sufficient to count as Dating. But, after going out as just friends for a year, they start going out on Boyfriend and Girlfriend term and right away...problem.)

However, in another scene from this same dating show (not within the episode above). These two is a young couple that got married, due to the guy knocked her up. But after they got married, he still has emotional affairs with other women and the wife went berserk! All the experts and celebrity guest, attacked the husband saying how can he do this when he is married and regardless to why they got married, he made a commitment that shouldn't be broken casually. However, they also told the wife regardless of how angry you get over this, you can't start throwing things at him, because domestic violence work both ways. But also said to the husband that any wife would be pushed over the edge, when their husband acts inappropriately this way.

I never met any Asian that accuses their Boyfriend or Girlfriend of Cheating for just hanging out with other guys/girls, only those who accuses their husband/wife of Cheating, for it.

In both videos below, the guy been tested and is been accused of Cheating, made it clear that "They are talking to someone, but not yet discuss been on boyfriend/girlfriend term " thus, they are 2 people in a Dating Relationship, but not on Dating term. Therefore, it doesn't count as they are dating exclusively, it doesn't even count as they are dating. Thus, it is not Cheating

The girl in the first video, she is less likely to become abusive relationship victim or to screw over some nice guy in an out of the blue middle age divorce proposal, because she understand it doesn’t count unless there are mutual consent been on Dating Term.

The girl within the second video, she is more likely to become abusive relationship victim or screw over some nice guy in an out of the blue middle age divorce proposal, because she doesn’t understand it doesn’t count unless there are mutual consent been on Dating Term



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