Reason Number 1
As Cupid mentioned before, the main problem is that the main stream western value, confuse dating to be same as marriage. As Cupid previously explained. Dating is Just Socializing, not sufficient to make 2 people married, spouse, life partner, sexual mate or romantically together (AKA a Couple) or even exclusive (despite Dating Exclusively, is the Dating Culture), sometime 2 people that are Dating is a Couple and sometime they are not and most likely they would eventually become a Couple or breakup.
If Dating is just socializing, then
1. You made no commitment, other than hanging out once or twice a week, until you or he/she decide to break up or you both agree to become a Couple, therefore,
a. You got no obligation to try make a relationship work, if the relationship isn’t working for you. (aka he/she is not the one)
b. You got no obligation to try make a relationship work, with a person you don't want to be with. (aka he/she is not the one)
So, to that extend you are not obligated to try make a relationship work
Reason Number 2
The agreement to be married, spouse, life partner, sexual mate or even to be romantically together (aka a Couple), are big commitments that should not be entered lightly, even the agreement to be dating exclusively, should not be taken lightly. If breaking a promise or commitment isn't something that should be taken lightly, entering a commitment should not be taken lightly. Just like, you shouldn’t sign a contract, before reading it (which is why, when most of us, agree to term of service, without reading it, before joining a website or download software or music, we are been reckless.)
You should only agree to be married, spouse or a couple, when both of you are sure, you are right person for each other and wants to be with each other and the relationship works for both of you. (aka, you met the one)
This is another reason why Cupid says, the western mainstream value of thinking Dating = Couple, Spouse or even marriage, is not only wrong, but toxic.
In different part of the world, people got different ideas regarding what it means to get married for example, in the west, we primary believe marriage is about "love", (which is a main reason same sex marriage is so quick to be recognized by the law in so many western countries within the past 10 years.) The Middle East, believe marriage is about coming together to have children and provide a stable environment to raise the children, (so, they don't think you should legally recognize same sex marriage, in fact they think you should discourage it, because gay people can't produce children) in China, they believe woman should marry for security, so, you should pick a guy that is either rich or got a good and stable job with decent income. And in China they believe men should marry for a good baby machine, able to be with somebody you love, is just an additional bonus. (In fact, I heard some Chinese people say “Only bad parents will allow their daughters to marry a man that doesn’t have at least a car and a house with three bed room and two living room.” 三房兩廳) For Taiwanese, Japanese, Hong Kong and Korean people, they believe dating is all about having fun, kind of like going to a night club or going to a party and if they get married it is due to “Dame! This party rocks! Can I book it in definite?”
Reason Number 3
As for "Love", just because 2 people are dating, doesn't necessary mean they are in love. Even when two people are married. Not all people married for Love
In different part of the world, people got different ideas regarding what it means to get married for example, in the west, we primary believe marriage is about "love", (which is a main reason same sex marriage is so quick to be recognized by the law in so many western countries within the past 10 years.) The Middle East, believe marriage is about coming together to have children and provide a stable environment to raise the children, (so, they don't think you should legally recognize same sex marriage, in fact they think you should discourage it, because gay people can't produce children) in China, they believe woman should marry for security, so, you should pick a guy that is either rich or got a good and stable job with decent income. And in China they believe men should marry for a good baby machine, able to be with somebody you love, is just an additional bonus. (In fact, I heard some Chinese people say “Only bad parents will allow their daughters to marry a man that doesn’t have at least a car and a house with three bed room and two living room.” 三房兩廳) For Taiwanese, Japanese, Hong Kong and Korean people, they believe dating is all about having fun, kind of like going to a night club or going to a party and if they get married it is due to “Dame! This party rocks! Can I book it in definite?”
So, what is the right answer?
There are no right or wrong answer, people can get marry for all sort of reasons, providing if both parties enter the marriage out of their own free will, in a clear state of mind and is not causing harm to peace, harmony or justice.
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