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Reason number 4

Unlike guys, girls’, their biological clock is ticking, if she wants to have children, she is only fertile for so many years. Unless the two of them got children together or if they are Spouses it is extremely selfish and inappropriate for a guy, to ask her to enter an emotional exclusive relationship with him, especially if the only reason he is asking that from her, is because he is possessive.

Cupid believe, it is inappropriate for a guy to ask a girl, to enter an emotionally exclusive relationship with him unless (1) they are Spouses or (2) they got children together. Asking for physical exclusive is acceptable, but asking for emotional exclusive is completely unacceptable.

Also, two people are not ready to become unwed Spouses, unless they are ready and wants to have children together.

Reason number 5

Thinking Dating is about trying to make a relationship work can be very self-destructive.

The west is the world’s most romantic culture. Nearly, all romantic literature come from the west, all of the most romantic countries, including, France, Italy and Spain, are western nations. But that also mean, when it comes to love, the west is a bit of a dreamer not living in reality. And a lot of western people lack understanding about relationship’s harsh reality.

Relationship are not meant to last, all relationship got a beginning, middle and an end. Whether it is breakup, divorce or death. All romantic relationship is meant to end, sooner or later. When a relationship is not meant to be, trying to make it work and forcing two people to be together, is only going to create pain. Even amount married couples, how often we see people that only stay together for the kids and once their children grew up, they got divorced?

Relationship’s most important thing, isn't about trying to make a relationship work. It is about cherishing and enjoying the time you got together and when it is time for it to end, able to let go. Not able to let go, when it is time for a relationship to end, will only cause you even more pain.  (Cupid isn’t saying it is going to be easy, especially if it is e.g. a loving married Couple for 20 years and one Spouse died.)

And having said that, when divorce happens, it is usually the hardest on the kids. So, when it is the wrong person, able to let go, prior to having kids, the kids doesn’t get hurt, you do it after having kids, you either hurt the kids or you stay together for the kids, thus, hurting yourself and each other. This is why Cupid always say, when you are with the wrong person

1. An early break up is better to a late breakup
2. An early divorce is better to a late divorce
3. A break up is better to a divorce and
4. A break up or divorce prior to having kids, is better compare to break up or divorce, after having kids.

The concept of "Dating is about trying to make a relationship work", "Dating is about love and commitment" and "Dating is a serious, committed and exclusive relationship" force people that are not right for each other (not the one), to stay together and try to make the relationship work, frequently lead to horrible results.

This is especially considering the fact, just because 2 people are dating, doesn't mean the relationship is going to work or the relationship is right for them. (Not the one)

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