The feminist theory regarding to continue gender struggle, leading to gender inequality, is wrong. For example, in China, it was mostly men initiating the women education movement, with President Sun-Yet San and later President Chan Kei-Shek, leading it and made it easier for women entering the workforce, opening up many State run child care centers. In Japan Emperor Meiji, push for compulsory education in the 19th century, where not only male, but female must complete up to year 9.
And it can be argued, women probably contribute more to women’s oppression, compare to men.
Scene from movies such as Bend it like Beckham staring Keira Knightly and Parminder Nagra, where the mother oppose her daughter having a career wanting her to be a housewife, while the father encourage his daughter having a career, is common, in pre 1950 Asia. Even today, except extremist groups such as Taliban and ISIS, it is usually women attacking other women, using words such as "Slut", men are significantly less likely to even use that terms, let along attack women for it. Despite in China it is commonly believe that Confucius is anti-women education and argue that women should obey their husbands, no word in Confucius Ideology say anything remotely close to it. All those words come from a Neo-Confucius book written nearly 400 years after Confucius’ death, by a woman name Ben-Chao called "The Daughter's doctrine" (女兒經) Within Confucius' book, "The Analects of Confucius" 論語 he encourage both rational and ethical men and women to be educated and encourage Kings to use both competent, ethical and rational men and women in government, despite Confucius question how many rational women are there, due to what we today know to be PMS’ influence.
When it comes to relationship, it isn't about whether you find yourself in one, but whether you consent out of your own free will, in a clear state of mind.
If a group of gangsters forced you to sign a contract, with a gun pointed at your head, shouldn't that contract be null? What if you married a person in Vegas, while you are too drunk to know what you are doing? Should that marriage count? According to Voder Haar Law Office, you can annual a Vegas Marriage, if one spouse is mentally incompetent or unable to understand what he/she was consenting to. Why in many countries, those under the age of 18 (or 16) are legally not allow to get married or need the minor's legal guardian’s permission for the marriage to be legally binding? Why is there such thing call statutory rape? Because, they question whether the minor got the maturity to make such decision in a clear state of mind and out of own free will, due to their young age.
In Asia, we understand, it doesn't matter whether you find yourself in a Relationship. It doesn't count, unless you consent out of your own free will, in a clear state of mind. (Even amount friends, we sometime see a situation where party A, consider party B as a friend, but party B doesn’t consider party A as a friend.)
We sometime find western girls living in Asia, talk about stuff, such as, for example I remember this western girl said on a forum, she and this guy she met in Taiwan been hanging out a lot, he invited her to different places with him along, including, lunch, dinner and one concert, he also once went to the café that she work, apologizing for been rude once and then invite her to lunch tomorrow at a new BBQ restaurant. She asked does this count as dating, in Taiwan. The answer from all Asian people on the forum is "Who cares, all that matters is whether you consented for it to be Dating."
Amount Asian girls living in the west. I've seen funny stories where an Asian girl is flirting with guy A on university campus, her cell phone ringed and she pick up the phone and start talking to guy B on the phone. Guy B said he wants talking to the guy she is flirting with. So, she gave guy A the phone and guy B angrily said "Why the F*** are you talking to my girlfriend?" and guy A say "He say you are his girlfriend?" and the Asian girl by impulse said "What the F***, since when did I agree to be his girlfriend, give me that phone" and snatched the phone out of his hand and said "Why the F*** did you say I am your girlfriend, what the F*** is wrong with you?"
Amount Asians, we sometime say "Yeah me and my boyfriend/girlfriend ... well ... technically speaking not my boyfriend/girlfriend, we haven't discussed been on boyfriend/girlfriend term yet. So, we are just friends." Because, despite they are in a Dating Relationship, they never consent about been on Dating Term.
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And it can be argued, women probably contribute more to women’s oppression, compare to men.
Scene from movies such as Bend it like Beckham staring Keira Knightly and Parminder Nagra, where the mother oppose her daughter having a career wanting her to be a housewife, while the father encourage his daughter having a career, is common, in pre 1950 Asia. Even today, except extremist groups such as Taliban and ISIS, it is usually women attacking other women, using words such as "Slut", men are significantly less likely to even use that terms, let along attack women for it. Despite in China it is commonly believe that Confucius is anti-women education and argue that women should obey their husbands, no word in Confucius Ideology say anything remotely close to it. All those words come from a Neo-Confucius book written nearly 400 years after Confucius’ death, by a woman name Ben-Chao called "The Daughter's doctrine" (女兒經) Within Confucius' book, "The Analects of Confucius" 論語 he encourage both rational and ethical men and women to be educated and encourage Kings to use both competent, ethical and rational men and women in government, despite Confucius question how many rational women are there, due to what we today know to be PMS’ influence.
When it comes to relationship, it isn't about whether you find yourself in one, but whether you consent out of your own free will, in a clear state of mind.
If a group of gangsters forced you to sign a contract, with a gun pointed at your head, shouldn't that contract be null? What if you married a person in Vegas, while you are too drunk to know what you are doing? Should that marriage count? According to Voder Haar Law Office, you can annual a Vegas Marriage, if one spouse is mentally incompetent or unable to understand what he/she was consenting to. Why in many countries, those under the age of 18 (or 16) are legally not allow to get married or need the minor's legal guardian’s permission for the marriage to be legally binding? Why is there such thing call statutory rape? Because, they question whether the minor got the maturity to make such decision in a clear state of mind and out of own free will, due to their young age.
In Asia, we understand, it doesn't matter whether you find yourself in a Relationship. It doesn't count, unless you consent out of your own free will, in a clear state of mind. (Even amount friends, we sometime see a situation where party A, consider party B as a friend, but party B doesn’t consider party A as a friend.)
We sometime find western girls living in Asia, talk about stuff, such as, for example I remember this western girl said on a forum, she and this guy she met in Taiwan been hanging out a lot, he invited her to different places with him along, including, lunch, dinner and one concert, he also once went to the café that she work, apologizing for been rude once and then invite her to lunch tomorrow at a new BBQ restaurant. She asked does this count as dating, in Taiwan. The answer from all Asian people on the forum is "Who cares, all that matters is whether you consented for it to be Dating."
Amount Asian girls living in the west. I've seen funny stories where an Asian girl is flirting with guy A on university campus, her cell phone ringed and she pick up the phone and start talking to guy B on the phone. Guy B said he wants talking to the guy she is flirting with. So, she gave guy A the phone and guy B angrily said "Why the F*** are you talking to my girlfriend?" and guy A say "He say you are his girlfriend?" and the Asian girl by impulse said "What the F***, since when did I agree to be his girlfriend, give me that phone" and snatched the phone out of his hand and said "Why the F*** did you say I am your girlfriend, what the F*** is wrong with you?"
Amount Asians, we sometime say "Yeah me and my boyfriend/girlfriend ... well ... technically speaking not my boyfriend/girlfriend, we haven't discussed been on boyfriend/girlfriend term yet. So, we are just friends." Because, despite they are in a Dating Relationship, they never consent about been on Dating Term.
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