Reason number 6
The Taiwanese got a very romantic and elegant way describing this
Considering Asia is the most unromantic place in the world, they surprisingly got some very romantic and effective ways, to describe some relationship logic.
In Taiwan there is a saying
"A Couple are like two pieces of the same Sea Shell, resting on the beach. One day the gods decided to play a cruel joke on them, smashing every Sea Shell a half. Ever since then, every half piece of the Sea Shell, start looking for their other half. (finding the one) Those who found their other half, reunited and pair up. (found the one) Some, only found a piece that is very similar to them and thought they met their other half and try to pair up with them. (not the one) But, because they are not each other's another half, it won't work out and they will still split apart."
The western view of thinking
1. "Dating is about trying to make a relationship work"
2. "Dating is about love and commitment" and/or
3. "Dating is a serious, committed and exclusive relationship"
is telling people, "you cannot even go try find your other half of that sea shell, you try to pair up with that first piece of sea shell you come across, regardless of whether that is your other half or not and try make it work." Ultimately, most of those they came across, is not their other half and it won't work out.
and hence west’s 50% middle age divorce rate. (married to not the one)
The truth is, once you meet your other half, whether he is an alpha male or whether she is a pretty girl, none of those things would matter anymore. (met the one)
Been an alpha male or been a pretty girl, only increase the chance of you finding a relationship, but...
It cannot make sure
1. whether that relationship would work out
2. whether that person is the person you want to be with
3. whether that relationship is right for you
4. whether that person is your other half
(can’t make sure if he/she is the one)
It can only increase the number of people you can date, with no guaranty any of those people are right for you.
If you understand, what Cupid is saying been an alpha male or a pretty girl, is a gift, helping you sooner find your other half and a better chance of finding your other half, because you get to date more people.
But if you think
1. "Dating is about trying to make a relationship work"
2. "Dating is about love and commitment" and/or
3. "Dating is a serious, committed and exclusive relationship"
been an alpha male or a pretty girl is a curse, as you just again and again wasted your time, with the wrong person, committed and trying to make a relationship work with the wrong person and maybe let your other half slide by your finger.
And the truth is, when you find your other half, none of those things, associate with pretty girls or alpha male, would matter, because that person is your other half.
On this topic even biologist have a saying
This Taiwanese reference, is actually confirm by modern science! In the study of evolution biology, it is found that, mammals are instinctively more attracted to their genetic opposite, while the idea of having sex with those who are genetic too similar disgust them. This is why, most people find incest disgusting and the idea of having sex with close relatives, make most people feel like throwing up. This is an evolution instinct, because, when two people are genetic opposite, they produce healthiest off springs, on the other hand, two people that are genetic too similar, their offspring are more likely to have problem by birth.
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The Taiwanese got a very romantic and elegant way describing this
Considering Asia is the most unromantic place in the world, they surprisingly got some very romantic and effective ways, to describe some relationship logic.
In Taiwan there is a saying
"A Couple are like two pieces of the same Sea Shell, resting on the beach. One day the gods decided to play a cruel joke on them, smashing every Sea Shell a half. Ever since then, every half piece of the Sea Shell, start looking for their other half. (finding the one) Those who found their other half, reunited and pair up. (found the one) Some, only found a piece that is very similar to them and thought they met their other half and try to pair up with them. (not the one) But, because they are not each other's another half, it won't work out and they will still split apart."
The western view of thinking
1. "Dating is about trying to make a relationship work"
2. "Dating is about love and commitment" and/or
3. "Dating is a serious, committed and exclusive relationship"
is telling people, "you cannot even go try find your other half of that sea shell, you try to pair up with that first piece of sea shell you come across, regardless of whether that is your other half or not and try make it work." Ultimately, most of those they came across, is not their other half and it won't work out.
and hence west’s 50% middle age divorce rate. (married to not the one)
The truth is, once you meet your other half, whether he is an alpha male or whether she is a pretty girl, none of those things would matter anymore. (met the one)
Been an alpha male or been a pretty girl, only increase the chance of you finding a relationship, but...
It cannot make sure
1. whether that relationship would work out
2. whether that person is the person you want to be with
3. whether that relationship is right for you
4. whether that person is your other half
(can’t make sure if he/she is the one)
It can only increase the number of people you can date, with no guaranty any of those people are right for you.
If you understand, what Cupid is saying been an alpha male or a pretty girl, is a gift, helping you sooner find your other half and a better chance of finding your other half, because you get to date more people.
But if you think
1. "Dating is about trying to make a relationship work"
2. "Dating is about love and commitment" and/or
3. "Dating is a serious, committed and exclusive relationship"
been an alpha male or a pretty girl is a curse, as you just again and again wasted your time, with the wrong person, committed and trying to make a relationship work with the wrong person and maybe let your other half slide by your finger.
And the truth is, when you find your other half, none of those things, associate with pretty girls or alpha male, would matter, because that person is your other half.
On this topic even biologist have a saying
This Taiwanese reference, is actually confirm by modern science! In the study of evolution biology, it is found that, mammals are instinctively more attracted to their genetic opposite, while the idea of having sex with those who are genetic too similar disgust them. This is why, most people find incest disgusting and the idea of having sex with close relatives, make most people feel like throwing up. This is an evolution instinct, because, when two people are genetic opposite, they produce healthiest off springs, on the other hand, two people that are genetic too similar, their offspring are more likely to have problem by birth.
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