(Page Fourteen) Confusing Dating to be same as marriage.

Confusing Dating to be same as marriage.

In the west, there is a common problem of confusing Dating to be same as marriage.

Dating and marriage fall into 2 completely different relationship categories.

In category A there are 5 stages of relationships, including Acquaintances (Stage 1), Friends (Stage 2), Couple (Stage 3), Spouse (Stage 4) or Married (Stage 5)

Category B there is Dating

There are

1. Dating between Acquaintances,
2. Dating between Friends,
3. Dating between Couple,
4. Dating between Spouse and
5. Dating between Married people (e.g. some married people do Date night).

But Dating is not sufficient to make 2 people married, Spouse, Couple or even Friends!

What is Dating?

A Date is an act of socializing with romantic intent

Dating means 2 people going on Date together

Thus, Dating mean 2 people socializing with romantic intent.

But what that mean is strictly speaking Dating isn’t even exclusive!

Because, Dating mean “socializing with romantic intent” not “socializing with romantic intent, exclusively” there is a difference.

But, culturally speaking, Dating is exclusive. However, it isn’t Cheating not acting in accordance to culture practice, such as it is culture practice to eat turkey on Christmas, but you don’t need to do it, if you don’t want to.

However, dating is about 2 people not just one person, so if you didn’t specify not dating exclusively, he/she is well within their right to think it is exclusive, considering it is the culture norm for dating to be exclusive and it is the culture norm for an agreement to date to mean an agreement to date exclusively. Such act of you dating a 3rd party under the circumstances, isn’t Cheating, but whether such act of you dating a 3rd party to be ethical or unethical, you need to consider whether it violate the principle of peace, harmony or justice, if it is of good ethic, do it. If it is unethical don’t do it. If it is neither good ethic nor unethical Cupid is not going to tell you what to do.

However, it is important to keep in mind that, because we live in a social and culture circumstances where it is the culture practice for Dating to be Exclusive and an agreement to Date to mean an agreement to Date exclusively. When you ask a person out or agree to date a person, the implication is that you are asking them out as in Dating Exclusively or agree to Date Exclusively. Thus, intentionally or unintentionally, you infer an idea of Dating Exclusively, when you ask a person out on a Date or agree to Date a person. So, if that person you are dating, restrict themselves from dating other people, due to thinking the two of you are exclusive, while you are still dating other people, knowing it is not exclusive, under the circumstances, it can argue to be at least a bit unfair to him/her. Thus, if it is not your intention to be Dating a person, exclusively, please remember to specify “Just Dating None Exclusively” to avoid accidentally misleading them, to think, when you agree to date or asking a person out on a date, you meant “Dating Exclusively”.

On the other hand, if you found the person you are Dating, to be in the same time, dating other people, it is important to remember, just because they agreed to Date you, it doesn’t necessary mean agreeing to be Dating Exclusively. Thus, unless you can be certain when they ask you out or agree to date you, they meant “Dating Exclusively”, please don’t call them a “Cheater”. And please also keep in mind, they might not be trying to mislead you to think it is Dating Exclusively on purpose, for example, it is possible, they just thought none exclusive is imply due to they never said for it to be exclusive and this never become a problem within any of their past relationship, so please be understanding and if you are not OK with the person you are dating, to be in the same time dating other people, feel free to break up with him/her, especially if you suspect you are been taken advantage of, where they intentionally mislead you to think it is exclusive or when they agree to date, they actually meant “dating exclusively”, thus, what they are doing now is Cheating. Even if you believe they honestly didn’t mean Dating Exclusively, when they agree to Date and isn’t try to misled you to think it is Dating Exclusively, if you feel uncomfortable Dating this person none exclusively, please don’t hesitate to break up, please feel free to breakup over this. But unless you can be certain, they did mean “Dating Exclusively”, when they agreed to date please don’t call them a Cheater.

However, as Cupid mention before, regardless to whether the two of you are in a Dating Relationship or not. The only thing that matter is whether you consented to be Dating, out of your own free will, in a clear state of mind. Thus, if it is not consensual out of own free will in a clear state of mind for it to be Dating, “It Doesn’t Count”

An example of two people that are in Dating Relationship and is also on Dating Term is for example Jack think Lisa the girl working in the Starbuck that he grabbed his morning coffee on his way to work, is smoking hot and Lisa think Jack is really cool, so Jack ask Lisa out and Lisa agree, thus, they go grab dinner together after work, every Friday night.

Two people that are in a Dating Relationship, but is not on Dating Term, is for example, two people that hate each other, are forced to work on a project together and during this period they develop romantic feelings for each other and become best friends as a result. But neither party agreed to be Dating, because they are both Dating other people and doesn’t want to hurt the other person they are Dating. Two people seize to be Dating, when one party chose no longer want to be Dating, commonly refer to as a “break up”

Two people seize to be Dating, when one party chose no longer want to be Dating, commonly refer to as a “break up”

Relationship type one	Relationship type Two	Relationship type Three
Married	Dating	Friends with Benefit
Unwed Spouse	Dating	Friends with Benefit
None Spouse Couple	Dating	Friends with Benefit
Friends	Dating	Friends with Benefit
Acquaintances	Dating	Friends with Benefit

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