In fact, while women might find nerdy trade amount her boyfriend to be a bit of a turn off, due to the nerd stereotype include been a none masculine male, for girls, been a bit of a nerd, but not too much of a nerd might boost her sex appeal, because the stereotype is nerds are smart and nice. Hence you can see, for men, sexual attraction is rational orientated, even if it is happening on a subconscious level.
For women, romantic love is more of an emotional thing. So, it is how a guy make her feel. For example, despite while looking for a serious relationship, women are more inclined to look for men that are rich, nice or funny, which are rational choice, they also might look for a father figure, which is more of an emotional choice. It becomes even more obvious when looking for a causal relationship they look for a romantic guy, due to the romantic feel associate with it, some girls look for cool guys or bad boys, because they think it brings a sense of excitement. (Cupid isn’t sure, is bad boy a substitution for cool guys or cool guys a substitution for bad boys. Personally, Cupid think bad boys is a substitution for cool guys, because, Hitler and Osama Bin Laden never got voted the sexiest men alive.)
What that mean is, when women talk about whether a guy is “creepy” when it is from a subjective point of view, it is more associate with how he makes her romantically feels. Cupid heard story of girls that find a guy to be “creepy”, when he asked her out and she say no and the guy just say “alright then, but I only ask a girl out once, so I am not asking you out again. I want to take a nap, don’t bother me, now.” And put a hat over his face and try to sleep, all in a sudden, the girl really wants talking to him and gone from her original state of not wanting to talk to him, to become a little chatter box that won't stop bothering him! This is also why, many relationship experts claim the best way to get a girl, is not to actually try pick up girls, but socialize with them as just friends. This is because, you might fall under the “creepy” category, from her romantic view, but, if it is just as a friend, chances are she won’t feel that way about you and on a second impression, you might not fall under the “creepy” category in a romantic view.
But that is what make it so dangerous, sometime a guy that a woman finds to be “creepy” from a subjective point of view is “not creepy” if we look at it from an objective point of view. On the other hand, a man that a woman finds to be “not creepy” from a subjective point of view, can be “very creepy” from an objective point of view.
Take bad boys as an example. Girls that are interest in bad boys. From a subjective point of view, most likely, she won’t at all, find him “creepy”, but when we look at it from an objective point of view, bad boys are worse than creepy.
So, the question becomes when a woman claim for a man to be “creepy” is that a “subjective opinion” or an “objective opinion” while, women that are more rational, might rely more heavily on her “objective opinion” in regards to whether a guy is “creepy”, a woman that is more emotional are more likely to be making that determination based on an emotional decision.
Hence, when all of her friends and family can see this guy is bad news, she can’t see it and enter the relationship with him and won’t know she is in trouble, until it is far too late.
This plays a major role regarding why, so many women ended up in abusive relationship, mostly the more emotional ones. (Cupid got a confession, I don’t really care much about overly emotional people, they are nut bag crazy) Of course, Cupid is not saying “just because a guy is not creepy from an objective point of view, you need to go out with him.”, I mean true, a guy that is “not creepy” from an objective point of view, might be a very nice guy, but if you find him “creepy” from a subjective point of view, most likely you are not attracted to him and you shouldn’t need to force yourself to date a guy that you are not interest in, this is both unfair to you and to him. Instead pick guys that is not creepy to you from both the objective and subjective point of view.
Cupid remember a social experiment. A girl was sitting on a park bench along, during the night, nobody around, a pretty creepy setting, right? A guy wearing a dark color jumper and jean and a baseball hat, approaches her and tries chatting her up. The girl right away told him to “f*** off”, now consider the circumstances, it makes sense the girl would told him off, it is a possible, dangerous situation, especially considering the environmental setting, who can hear her scream and its dark, so if he e.g. rape her, would people even notice? So, the guy wearing the blue jumper, jeans and baseball hat left. But what he did next is that, he took off his blue jumper and replace it with a cool black leather jacket and a motorcycle helmet and approaches the girl again. Not seen his face, now the girl only sees a cool guy, all in a sudden, everything she know she need to be careful of, she forgot and is giggling, like a little school girl and almost seem as if, she can’t wait to jump in bed with him. It is only when the guy asked the girl about a previous guy that also approached her that she rejected and told her, he is that guy and when she won’t believe him, he took off his helmet and revealed his face, only then, did the girl in a fright, quickly jumped off his motorcycle.
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For women, romantic love is more of an emotional thing. So, it is how a guy make her feel. For example, despite while looking for a serious relationship, women are more inclined to look for men that are rich, nice or funny, which are rational choice, they also might look for a father figure, which is more of an emotional choice. It becomes even more obvious when looking for a causal relationship they look for a romantic guy, due to the romantic feel associate with it, some girls look for cool guys or bad boys, because they think it brings a sense of excitement. (Cupid isn’t sure, is bad boy a substitution for cool guys or cool guys a substitution for bad boys. Personally, Cupid think bad boys is a substitution for cool guys, because, Hitler and Osama Bin Laden never got voted the sexiest men alive.)
What that mean is, when women talk about whether a guy is “creepy” when it is from a subjective point of view, it is more associate with how he makes her romantically feels. Cupid heard story of girls that find a guy to be “creepy”, when he asked her out and she say no and the guy just say “alright then, but I only ask a girl out once, so I am not asking you out again. I want to take a nap, don’t bother me, now.” And put a hat over his face and try to sleep, all in a sudden, the girl really wants talking to him and gone from her original state of not wanting to talk to him, to become a little chatter box that won't stop bothering him! This is also why, many relationship experts claim the best way to get a girl, is not to actually try pick up girls, but socialize with them as just friends. This is because, you might fall under the “creepy” category, from her romantic view, but, if it is just as a friend, chances are she won’t feel that way about you and on a second impression, you might not fall under the “creepy” category in a romantic view.
But that is what make it so dangerous, sometime a guy that a woman finds to be “creepy” from a subjective point of view is “not creepy” if we look at it from an objective point of view. On the other hand, a man that a woman finds to be “not creepy” from a subjective point of view, can be “very creepy” from an objective point of view.
Take bad boys as an example. Girls that are interest in bad boys. From a subjective point of view, most likely, she won’t at all, find him “creepy”, but when we look at it from an objective point of view, bad boys are worse than creepy.
So, the question becomes when a woman claim for a man to be “creepy” is that a “subjective opinion” or an “objective opinion” while, women that are more rational, might rely more heavily on her “objective opinion” in regards to whether a guy is “creepy”, a woman that is more emotional are more likely to be making that determination based on an emotional decision.
Hence, when all of her friends and family can see this guy is bad news, she can’t see it and enter the relationship with him and won’t know she is in trouble, until it is far too late.
This plays a major role regarding why, so many women ended up in abusive relationship, mostly the more emotional ones. (Cupid got a confession, I don’t really care much about overly emotional people, they are nut bag crazy) Of course, Cupid is not saying “just because a guy is not creepy from an objective point of view, you need to go out with him.”, I mean true, a guy that is “not creepy” from an objective point of view, might be a very nice guy, but if you find him “creepy” from a subjective point of view, most likely you are not attracted to him and you shouldn’t need to force yourself to date a guy that you are not interest in, this is both unfair to you and to him. Instead pick guys that is not creepy to you from both the objective and subjective point of view.
Cupid remember a social experiment. A girl was sitting on a park bench along, during the night, nobody around, a pretty creepy setting, right? A guy wearing a dark color jumper and jean and a baseball hat, approaches her and tries chatting her up. The girl right away told him to “f*** off”, now consider the circumstances, it makes sense the girl would told him off, it is a possible, dangerous situation, especially considering the environmental setting, who can hear her scream and its dark, so if he e.g. rape her, would people even notice? So, the guy wearing the blue jumper, jeans and baseball hat left. But what he did next is that, he took off his blue jumper and replace it with a cool black leather jacket and a motorcycle helmet and approaches the girl again. Not seen his face, now the girl only sees a cool guy, all in a sudden, everything she know she need to be careful of, she forgot and is giggling, like a little school girl and almost seem as if, she can’t wait to jump in bed with him. It is only when the guy asked the girl about a previous guy that also approached her that she rejected and told her, he is that guy and when she won’t believe him, he took off his helmet and revealed his face, only then, did the girl in a fright, quickly jumped off his motorcycle.
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