Is it the duty of a woman to marry?
Thus, to such extend Cupid would argue, despite we should encourage good women to be married to good men and have babies. Not getting married, not having a man and having no babies isn’t sufficient to make the woman to do anything wrong, because it is insufficient to break the code of ethic, despite there were a few incident in history where it was the duty for a woman to have babies, in an effort to maintain peace, harmony and justice, (For example, during China’s early Han dynasty, due to increase threat from the Huns and China’s mass decrease of population after civil war, China needed a larger population to have more soldiers.) It cannot be conducted in violation of the principle of Peace, Harmony or Justice.
For example, in the west there are lots of debate regarding to the ethic of polygamy vs monogamy. In that instance, Cupid’s opinion is, if for example, we again came across the same situation between the Hun vs the Chinese two thousand years ago, where women need to have babies to increase population size, to have a larger army. It is better to be in a polygamy relationship with a man that won’t conduct physical or emotional abuse upon a woman, instead of been in a monogamy relationship, with a man that would conduct physical or emotional abuse upon her.
It is also, important to note, you don't need getting married, to produce children. There are a lot of ways to produce children, especially today, with sperm banks technologies. In ancient Rome and China’s Tang dynasty (5th~8th century), pre-marital sex including, orgy and one-night stand was highly encouraged, especially with no deadly STD, such as AIDS back then. (and there was no record of anything, which by modern science, resemble a wide spread of STD) Despite after the Tang dynasty, pre-marital sex was no longer encourage or in fashion and since the Song dynasty (10th ~12th century), Ming dynasty (14th ~ 17th century) and Qing dynasty (18th ~early 20th century) virgin bride become some increasingly been valued, till after WW2, where its value start decreasing again, for the three dynasty, it is not consider unethical, even for a woman to be a slut. In the west, since the fall of the Roman Empire, sex become seen as a symbol of evil and until the 1970s in Ireland, women were thrown in prison for life, for been a slut, if she becomes an unwed mother, those are private prison run by the church, in partnership with the Irish government, call “The Catholic Church Home for Unwed Mothers” there was also cases where the church kidnap women from other European countries to be thrown into this private prison, for been a slut, authorized by then Irish government. in Asia despite been an unwed mother was seen as taboo till 1990s, the worse that these women get is desperate housewives, gossip about them behind their back and despite prior to 1900s, there were cases of women been killed for been a slut, usually in the country towns, such behavior was illegal and those involve would be arrested and charged with murder, if caught.
Should a woman obey her husband?
Every word of what the bible teaches here, is garbage. Just ignore it. The principle of ethic regarding to husband and wife and whether a wife should be submissive, is the same to all principle of ethic “peace, harmony and justice”. Cupid particular like a Confucius statement referring to a family like a small political unit and all member of the family, is like an active politician of it. Confucius believe the duty of the government is to help maintain the necessary level of peace and harmony within a society, but cannot themselves violate peace and harmony’s principle.
To such extend Cupid would argue the ethic of been a good husband or a good wife, is same as the principle of all ethic, not to violate the principle of peace, harmony and justice and subject to that perform your duty help maintain the necessary level of peace, harmony and justice. Other than that, a person got the right to do what they want.
Thus, whether a woman should obey her husband, also depends on circumstances. If your husband is a doctor and your child is sick and it is in his expert opinion, during this period of one week, you shouldn’t let your child leave the house, it might be a good idea to listen to him, except special reasons, such as the house is on fire. However, if your husband wants you to kill your dog or put all of your money under his name, so he can control all the money, you should disobey your husband, to protect yourself, from possible betrayal or to protect your dog. (Protecting yourself from betrayal, there is an old saying “it is better to be wrong then sorry” or reminded me of a line from a pop song “hoping for the best, but expecting the worst” or as a saying we got in Asia 害人之心不可有防人之心不可無 It means, you can’t go around hurting people, but you need to be careful of the possibility of people hurting you.)
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Thus, to such extend Cupid would argue, despite we should encourage good women to be married to good men and have babies. Not getting married, not having a man and having no babies isn’t sufficient to make the woman to do anything wrong, because it is insufficient to break the code of ethic, despite there were a few incident in history where it was the duty for a woman to have babies, in an effort to maintain peace, harmony and justice, (For example, during China’s early Han dynasty, due to increase threat from the Huns and China’s mass decrease of population after civil war, China needed a larger population to have more soldiers.) It cannot be conducted in violation of the principle of Peace, Harmony or Justice.
For example, in the west there are lots of debate regarding to the ethic of polygamy vs monogamy. In that instance, Cupid’s opinion is, if for example, we again came across the same situation between the Hun vs the Chinese two thousand years ago, where women need to have babies to increase population size, to have a larger army. It is better to be in a polygamy relationship with a man that won’t conduct physical or emotional abuse upon a woman, instead of been in a monogamy relationship, with a man that would conduct physical or emotional abuse upon her.
It is also, important to note, you don't need getting married, to produce children. There are a lot of ways to produce children, especially today, with sperm banks technologies. In ancient Rome and China’s Tang dynasty (5th~8th century), pre-marital sex including, orgy and one-night stand was highly encouraged, especially with no deadly STD, such as AIDS back then. (and there was no record of anything, which by modern science, resemble a wide spread of STD) Despite after the Tang dynasty, pre-marital sex was no longer encourage or in fashion and since the Song dynasty (10th ~12th century), Ming dynasty (14th ~ 17th century) and Qing dynasty (18th ~early 20th century) virgin bride become some increasingly been valued, till after WW2, where its value start decreasing again, for the three dynasty, it is not consider unethical, even for a woman to be a slut. In the west, since the fall of the Roman Empire, sex become seen as a symbol of evil and until the 1970s in Ireland, women were thrown in prison for life, for been a slut, if she becomes an unwed mother, those are private prison run by the church, in partnership with the Irish government, call “The Catholic Church Home for Unwed Mothers” there was also cases where the church kidnap women from other European countries to be thrown into this private prison, for been a slut, authorized by then Irish government. in Asia despite been an unwed mother was seen as taboo till 1990s, the worse that these women get is desperate housewives, gossip about them behind their back and despite prior to 1900s, there were cases of women been killed for been a slut, usually in the country towns, such behavior was illegal and those involve would be arrested and charged with murder, if caught.
Should a woman obey her husband?
Every word of what the bible teaches here, is garbage. Just ignore it. The principle of ethic regarding to husband and wife and whether a wife should be submissive, is the same to all principle of ethic “peace, harmony and justice”. Cupid particular like a Confucius statement referring to a family like a small political unit and all member of the family, is like an active politician of it. Confucius believe the duty of the government is to help maintain the necessary level of peace and harmony within a society, but cannot themselves violate peace and harmony’s principle.
To such extend Cupid would argue the ethic of been a good husband or a good wife, is same as the principle of all ethic, not to violate the principle of peace, harmony and justice and subject to that perform your duty help maintain the necessary level of peace, harmony and justice. Other than that, a person got the right to do what they want.
Thus, whether a woman should obey her husband, also depends on circumstances. If your husband is a doctor and your child is sick and it is in his expert opinion, during this period of one week, you shouldn’t let your child leave the house, it might be a good idea to listen to him, except special reasons, such as the house is on fire. However, if your husband wants you to kill your dog or put all of your money under his name, so he can control all the money, you should disobey your husband, to protect yourself, from possible betrayal or to protect your dog. (Protecting yourself from betrayal, there is an old saying “it is better to be wrong then sorry” or reminded me of a line from a pop song “hoping for the best, but expecting the worst” or as a saying we got in Asia 害人之心不可有防人之心不可無 It means, you can’t go around hurting people, but you need to be careful of the possibility of people hurting you.)
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